The Fear of Failure is a Myth

mindset sharing support Apr 28, 2020

Have you ever had someone ask you what you’ve failed at? It’s an odd question, I know, but have you ever thought about it? Have you ever sat and wrote down your failures? If you have, and you have a long list of them, I want to tell you, you’re wrong. You didn’t fail.

This morning I opened up my Facebook account like I normally do during breakfast time and scrolled upon a post from my colleague and friend, Scott Perry. He runs a coaching practice called, Creative On Purpose, and does these great talks while taking a walk in his local cemetery. If you’ve followed me for any length of time you know I’m a cemetery caretaker’s wife and this fact about Scott making a cemetery something normal for people just makes my heart overall happy. Scott’s post asked, “What would you still do, even if you knew it would fail?” and it triggered me to think. “What have I failed doing? Wow, Scott, thanks for the morning push!” As I...

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Aprons Not Face Masks

If you would have been able to tell yourself six years ago that toward the beginning of 2020 you’d be told you were not to leave your home due to a global pandemic how do you think you would have reacted?

Six years ago, I was sewing aprons and leading cooking workshops at a local women’s advocacy group. I was doing this because I realized how an apron had been a key piece in the work to reconnect my family to one another. The first apron I made was not long after I left my corporate job. I left because my marriage was in shambles, and my children were not being raised to know anything but themselves. Sewing that apron began a healing journey of myself and of those I love the most.

Many of you I’ve seen posting you’re making face masks to either donate or sell to others to help keep people protected from the coronavirus. I want you to know I think this is a noble and very much needed use of your skill. I’m glad to see so many, like you, opening up your...

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Are you playing the Victim or Surviving?

Are you Learning to Have a Survivor Mentality?

It’s no surprise that the outbreak of a pandemic would create an immense amount of our population to exhibit both panic, victim complex, and a decrease in some of our confidence. For the average American, our worlds have been void of the need to trigger our survival mechanisms for almost 100 years. For some of us, survival is not something we think about in the real terms of surviving. Thus the hashtag #1stworldproblems and the rise of usage over the past few weeks since the Covid-19 virus hit our shores in the US.

I’d bet to say, you’re probably feeling a little off track with what you thought you’d be doing right now?

Most likely, you’re feeling like so much of this is unfair or unreal?

Maybe you’ve even found yourself reverting to childhood comforts that made you feel safe that you’re parents provided to reassure you? (Hello, 4 boxes of Thin Mints in 2 days while watching TV, and grocery...

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Is Your Self-Care REAL?

self-care self-love Feb 10, 2020

Why do you keep ignoring the real-type of self-care?

Every time you scroll social media you probably see at least one, if not two posts, calling you to the action of scheduling time for your “self-care”. Go ahead, go scroll your feed, count them. I'll wait. How many quotes about knowing your worth, turning off your cell phone, and taking a little time away do you see?

A few weeks ago, I was reminded why all these “reminders” of self-care are bombarding us. I believe they are a cry out for REAL self-care.

Because we, and by we, I mean women and primarily women with children, a spouse and a business (or some combination of the few) are not taking care of ourselves. We are ignoring all the signs. We are choosing to do pretend self-care with traveling for business, a few moments enjoying a bath bomb, and buying ourselves that “need-to-have” item at a friend’s online party.

It’s almost become the new feminist rally cry, “Do it in the...

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3 Lessons I Learned About Taking Risks in my Business from Middle-School

How many times in the last 24 hours did you think to yourself, “I wish I could just settle for being normal and get a “real” job?”

If you could just get over this feeling you were meant for more, life would be easier, right?

You keep telling yourself there is nothing special or to be noticed about your business but deep down you know that’s a lie you tell yourself to stay safe. A lie that keeps you from taking chances.

I know that voice too, I know that wish, and it keeps me up at night sometimes thinking about all the times I’ve given into it. 

But not this time.


When you were in middle school you probably spent a ton of time thinking about similar things. As a mom of teenagers, I realize from watching my daughter this is where most of us start this type of thinking. We want to be noticed for anything in the sea of hormones, honor societies, and competitive sports. It’s the period of time when friendships, role models, and even...

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Overcome the Fear to Travel as a Mompreneur

Over the years, I’ve heard from many of you about how difficult it is to make the decision to leave your kids and family for travel that is important to your business. #BizMoms in all my past leadership positions have shared with me their feelings of worry, of the stress to prepare before traveling, and of feeling judged about their priorities by family and friends. This constant pressure to dismiss their feelings of isolation, burn out, and disconnection in order to comply with a cultural norm of what a working woman can and can not be in our world.

And I get it. I’ve felt it too.

However, maybe it’s my spontaneous spirit or what some would call my “old-soul wisdom”, but I don’t believe in making ourselves feel guilty for wanting to be seen in the world as an individual instead of dependent on others is a healthy way to be an example for those you love.

I was recently on a solopreneur momcation while my daughter was away for eight days at Elite...

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Xennial Roaring 20s Revolution

If you’re an Xennial, you are the best prepared to make the next “Roaring 20s” successful as a fempreneur and for you and your family. Would you like to know how?

Maybe you’ve been thinking about this next decade a lot like I have over the past few weeks. The dreamy state of what it was like during the Art Deco period of the 1920s before the Great Depression turned the world’s glittered champaigned sky to grey, and if that will be the fate of the next ten years. I love a good period piece and the world of Downton Abbey is as binge-watchable to me as “Baby Yoda” is on Disney+. What I find quite interesting about many of the series set during the 1920s is that they usually end right before everything takes a crap.

As a business trainer for women birthing and raising their own businesses (aka #BizMoms), I do find myself worrying and caring about how each of my clients could remain in business should something like the Great Depression strike. I...

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Traditions for When Santa Stops Being Real

Probably one of the most heartbreaking experiences or possibly one of the biggest reliefs, depending on the child, is the moment you tell your child that Santa is not real. I have heard it from many moms and felt it myself, but the moment the Big Guy in the Red Suit is no longer the bringer of magic and gifts, it feels as if,

"Your kids realize you’re a B I G  F A T  L I E R and nothing will ever be the same!"

The one truth about that is "nothing will ever be the same", and I want you to know Mama, it's going to be ok.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t change my kids believing in Santa because there are so many good experiences and memories of them having all that wonder the night before his arrival. The rushing to their stockings to see if he left their favorite treats are truly the most precious of moments I crave for my Facebook page to remind me of in my feed. However, the dilemma it creates for most of us moms' is that after Santa is...

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Are you a Finisher or a Starter?

Maybe you’ve have heard this phrase in the self-help and goal-setting space. 

 

Limited Beliefs.


Maybe you’re like me and kind of didn’t recognize it as a validating thought approach because it seemed too much like the self-talk morning moments that become pretty popular lately. I have never quite understood how someone repeating, “Today is going to be wonderful. Today I am happy.” was going to really make a difference in me having a wonderful or happy day. I’ve always been someone who felt what needed to be felt at the moment. Call me crazy but the world tells me what I should be thinking or feeling 24/7, why the hell would I listen to someone do that to me first thing in the morning? But, to each their own. If it works for you great, but to me it this type of self-help has always seemed a bit like the programming for Stepford Wives, and the term “limited beliefs” felt like we were being told that now we need to be told...

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What Peeling Apples taught me about Authenticity

When I was a little girl, maybe about four years old, my grandfather would sit me in one of his director chairs (you know the kind you see movie stars sit in when they are interviewed) and peel apples for me under our small orchard in our yard. I can remember revealing at his fantastic skill to peel an apple with a pocket knife so that none of the peel broke. It would land in the grass in a perfect spiral, and I stare at it until he handed me the first sliver of juicy apple and begin to tell me a story about his travels and adventures growing up.

My grandfather was from a generation you don’t hear about very often anymore, and now as a grown woman, wife and mother, I am in awe of being one of the few 30 somethings to have such a rich, deep sense of pride into what makes a person authentic because of him. He was born in 1913, part of the Interbellum Generation, which means he was born between the two great wars. At eight years old, his father died of fever, and his being one of...

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